Unripe the unspoken Hope
Do we need a partner who understands? A shoulder to cry? A friend who is good enough to cope up with our tantrums? What do we need or want in this life is very important for us to understand. We usually hope from situations or others when we believe the circumstances are in favour of us but do we realise that the conditions and the people bound in its action also have their parameters.
Believing and Hope doesn't go hand in hand with facts and trust which, divides the word Hope into two patterns -
A traditional hope is bound to the boundaries of ethnicity or its plays as a rope to figure out the possibilities of how well you can make use of it. Very often, meaningless words from a person whom we believe and expect the care can make us understand what we usually find so hard to accept or pretend to have accepted. Sometimes, nothing is enough to swim through the CSF fluid and reach the brain cortex for us to understand a situation or a subject that's been bothering you for years cause it isn't coming from the right source of your choice. In other words, clinging on to "Traditional Hope" can depict co-dependency. A state of mind that believes in his judgement about a person and starts expecting them to do exactly how they assume it to be. Measuring the words of advice, scaling them with their expectations and disappointing oneself when they don't come up to their expectations. Such kind of "Support" can only be favourable for a couple of hours, minutes, or seconds before dissipating into a mist of increasing expectations.
On the contrary, one must learn to give and take "unconditional hope" coming from any source (i.e., an elder, a younger, a rich, a poor, an enemy, a friend, a colleague or a boss) irrespective of the criteria or a checklist that fulfils your specific needs and wants. Unconditional Hope comes from someone without judgements, without limitations and expectations, unbiased and sheer with humanity. It is significant to understand that an individual has free will to turn the piece of advice given at the time of need into words of encouragement or just not be bothered about it as the source is not related to you anyway. But, we don't have a free will to select a particular person and grab on to their tail with assumptions of them making you happy with exact words that you would like to hear. This kind of behaviour makes a person independent and self-sufficient enough to be a self-motivator.
On a positive note, I hope this post has given you some insight into "unripe the unspoken hope" and "don't make hope an ethnic rope". Kindly notify the doctor for more help.
Credits: Picture from internet, Written by Dr Tahseen Ara Azad